ABUSE IS CHOICE.

A strong wind blows making the tall,gnarled trees sway from side to side.This makes me tremble and i immediately shut the windows.Suddenly Carmen walks in holding a tray cointaining a tea pot ,two cups and a biscuit barrel.She looks sad and her eyes are swollen.I take the tray t from her hands and put it on the table then helps her to sit down.Carmen is having issues in her marriage and that's why she requested me to visit.She needs my help so badly.Deep down my heart,there's happiness because she trusts me in this despite our age difference.She's older than me,married for two years and four months pregnant.                                      You need to open up dear,i tell her.She stands up ,goes to the door and locks it.She then serves our tea and sits down.She looks so terrified.''Brenda,i have a cocktail of feelings.We both laugh out loud.She clears her throat and starts her narration.''I feel hollow,torn apart,betrayed,desperate,disrespected and powerless.When did this drama start? i ask.She doesn't answer me direct rather she dips a biscuit in the tea,puts it in the mouth then stares at her wedding photo hanged on the cabinet.''Right after our honeymoon.He bullies me in public,blames me for his problems and never asks for forgiveness when he wrongs me.Sometimes we get into a conversation but it get so heated up and it turns to quarreling.We yell at each other and he storms out of the house leaving me alone for days,Only God knows where he goes.
      Wait,have you tried communicating to him?Communication is the strongest tool in a relationship.What about consulting a marriage counsellor?Tears are now rolling down her cheeks.''My husband is workaholic.He never creates time for me.And when i get a chance to talk to him,he pushes me away.You the first person am opening up to.My parents have no idea what am going through.Have been faking my happiness since i got married''.I hug her tightely.Have you ever thought of leaving him?I ask softly.She pulls herself quickly from my arms,gives me an ugly stare and shouts at me.''Hell no!I dont want my unborn baby to be fatherless''.You kidding me,right?Well,i would rather have a''dozen of fatherless''kids than an abusive husband.Suddenly a sweet aroma grabs my nose and i goes to the direction it coming from.Carmen follows too.Inside her bedroom,i see burning candles,rose oils,mint leaves,different bottle of incenses,rose quartz to name a  few.I realise that she uses different and expensive romantic oils to recover the lost affection from her husband.She goes down her knees and begs me to help in casting a re-uniting spell.If two people are not meant to be together,not even a spell can help.I decide to help her anyway and we cast it sucessfully.I give an assuarance that i will always be there for her and i depart.
       As am leaving her house,am thinking about other women who suffer emotional violence yet never talk about it.You sacrifice your happiness because you want to stick with your abusive husband.Living a pretentious life to please the world.You refuse to call it quit because you afraid to live a lonely life or because you are pregnant and you want somebody to rub your belly.Giving excuses that you have to suffer because of the kids.C'mon ladies.Call me dumb,but i lack patience for such people.Life is short.Live it to the fullest and enjoy it while it last.If you are a victim,get out of that bed,have a makeover and hit the floor.Seek help from a proffessional and if it fails to work,its time you opted out.Never feel sorry for yourself.You have needs also,remember?Besides there are many other men who will value and respect you.Know your worth..........